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Sharing Parents volunteers recently had the honor of speaking with Fox 40 Live about Sharing Parents and remembering mothers on Mother’s Day. You can view the segment here. Sharing Parents wishes you a gentle Mother’s Day. May the day be filled with love and remembrances of our babies. SaveSave SaveSave

By Emma Hansen Dear fellow mom, There is so much I want to say to you — so much I want you to know. But everything will fall short because if you are reading this then you are grieving your child and for that I am so sorry. I want you to know that it doesn’t matter how many times you kissed their little toes. Maybe you’re still waiting for the second line to turn pink or the adoption to be finalized. Maybe you had to say goodbye before you could even say hello. Maybe you had years to watch…

By Rachel Libby I am a volunteer facilitator for Sharing Parents grief support meetings. And if I’m going to be honest, I never look forward to doing it. The reasons range from petty (I don’t want to drive anywhere on a Sunday evening) to overwhelming: I simply cannot believe this is still happening to people. When my son, Oliver, died I went to the support meeting a few months later and heard people discuss their losses that had happened in May or June and I remember being stunned. I was shocked to learn that they had died after Oliver. I…

By Sara Seberger Last weekend I had the honor to walk in the March of Dimes, March for Babies for my son, Max. I walked along with hundreds (or thousands?) of other people in honor of our babies. This year, the March of Dimes had colored leis for those of us who lost our babies and those whose babies were born too soon, but survived, which made it easy to spot the parents with similar experiences. We wore white leis. Theirs were purple. It comforts me to know that I’m not alone in experiencing babyloss but it also breaks my…

By Rachel Libby When our first son Oliver was stillborn on his due date almost six years ago, my tech savvy and quick thinking sister immediately made it so no one could post on my Facebook wall. I wasn’t particularly interested in checking in on it at the time but she wisely knew that even one well intentioned “is the baby here yet?” post on my wall would be much too much for me to handle. During my twenty four hours of labor we had just enough time to make those worst phone calls, spreading the word of our loss…

By Dr. Jen Gunter There is a chance that you will receive a holiday card this year from someone who lost a baby right before or right after birth. Someone like me. When someone who lost a baby puts together a holiday card, the family photo, if we are brave enough to include one, is never quite right because it is missing someone. The updates we write about our lives are always incomplete because there is an untold story. We are perpetual hosts to a spirit that not even Dickens imagined, the Ghost of a Christmas That Can Never Be….

By Kurt Seckington This past June, I sat on a granite ledge fifteen feet above the crystal clear water of Ralston Lake, in the Sierra Nevada’s Desolation Wilderness, watching a driftwood “E” float lazily across the lake’s surface. In our family we have a tradition of celebrating our second son, Everett, who was stillborn at 38 weeks on May 22, 2012, by creating “E”s when we are out in the wilderness. We have drawn “E”s in the sand on deserted, windswept beaches, written “E”s with water on warm granite cobbles, and, like this day in the Sierra, placed 4 sticks…